Breaking Down Barriers: What Dandelions Can Teach Us About Conditioning, Healing, and Wholeness

Trigger warning: You may not want to read this if you're a lover of manicured lawns and pristine landscaping…

It’s dandelion season again. My parking strip is once more ablaze with yellow heads, defying the uniform green lawns around them. Last year I wrote In Defense of Dandelions, and once again, I find myself speaking on behalf of this misunderstood plant—and the many so-called “weeds” like it.

Unlearning What We’ve Been Taught

A few years ago, I completed a 7-month apprenticeship called Medicine at Our Feet with Constance Lyn in Boulder, Utah. That experience reshaped my perception of the natural world. I began to unlearn what culture had conditioned me to believe: that some plants are bad simply because they don’t fit into our idea of what belongs.

Take dandelions. If it weren’t for our inherited belief that they’re a nuisance, we might see their true beauty. These golden bursts are the first food for bees, rich in nutrients and medicinal properties. Their greens are full of vitamins and minerals, their roots detoxifying for the liver, and their flowers a symbol of resilience.

Who Told Us What’s “Good”?

But here’s the deeper question: Why do we believe what we believe—about dandelions, or anything else?

We’ve been enculturated. Conditioned. Shaped by invisible forces that tell us what’s valuable and what isn’t, what’s beautiful and what’s ugly, what’s acceptable and what should be eradicated.

Just as we’ve learned to view dandelions as invaders, we’ve absorbed countless beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us—often without ever pausing to question them.

Lawns as a Metaphor for Life

Our culture’s obsession with the perfect lawn is a metaphor for this conditioning. A monoculture of control, predictability, and appearance. A standard everyone’s expected to uphold—even if it costs us water, money, time, and biodiversity.

Weeds are simply wild plants growing where humans don't want them. But who decided they were wrong for being there?

In our inner lives, we do the same thing: pulling up parts of ourselves we think don’t belong, trying to manicure our personality to fit societal expectations. But what if those “weeds” inside us—our quirks, our doubts, our questions—are actually the medicine?

The Healing Power of Self-Inquiry

The moment we begin to question the status quo—whether in our gardens or in our beliefs—we begin the journey back to wholeness.

This is the heart of Yoga Nidra and hypnotherapy. These practices help us soften the grip of conditioning and reconnect with our true, authentic self—free from judgment, free from programming.

I’ll never forget the day my mother-in-law pointed to a thriving mallow plant in our garden and asked, “Isn’t that a weed?” It is—by conventional standards. But it's also edible, healing, and beautiful. Just like many of the thoughts and feelings we've been told to discard.

Are You Living by Default or by Choice?

So I’m not here to tell you to get rid of your lawn. I’m here to invite you to ask why you have one. Just as I invite you to ask why you believe what you believe—about yourself, your worth, your values, your life.

We are not separate from the natural world. The same wild intelligence that animates the plants also lives in you. When we make space for wildness—within ourselves and around us—we move closer to authenticity, freedom, and peace.

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